The first time I heard the word “frugal” I was reading Your Money or Your Life.
Not being familiar with the word, I first thought that “frugal” meant something like “superficial”, and then I thought that meant “cheap”.
While my first interpretation was totally wrong, the second was only completely wrong.
So I looked up the definition of frugal.
“characterized by or reflecting economy in the use of resources.
a frugal meal of bread and cheese”
“economical in use or expenditure; prudently saving or sparing; not wasteful.
what your office needs is a frugal manager who can save you money without resorting to painful cutbacks.”
“an intelligent participator in the economy.
For the retards: a person who spends money.
EXXO is very frugal, they funded the Bush’ adminstration’s next election funds in return for the conquerring of Iraq for Iraq’s oil.”
I feel like those definitions are missing out the real essence of frugality.
In the book, the Latin origin of the word is analyzed: from frugalis virtuous, frugal, from frug-, frux fruit, value; akin to Latin frui to enjoy. (yeah I admit it, I would NEVER check the origin of a word myself)
The authors came out with a more holistic definition:
enjoying the virtue of getting good value out of what you have the use of.
Enough of definitions – what frugality looks like?
I can give an example checking my wardrobe.
I have 12 pair of jeans.
Of them, I only use 3 on a regular basis and 2 for special occasion (elegant or funky).
- Why I use those 5? Because I really like them!
- Can I live without the other 7? YES.
- Would that be frugal? YES… frugal is enjoying what you have. And I’m enjoying 5, so the other 7 are the waste that I’m not enjoying having.
- Would having only the 5 jeans I love reduce my quality of life? I don’t think so. I rather think the opposite. Having only what you enjoy and what you love would increase your quality of life to a new level.
The increase of life quality is a by-product of frugality.
Consider those effects:
- less TIME spent on arranging things (I remember the “spring cleaning” with my family, cleaning and re-arranging things we never used).
- less SPACE required. I’m happy to live in an apartment, and sorry but here around 1mt2 is 4.000eur and I want to enjoy each one of them!
- less MONEY waste, money that can be saved or spent for the things that matter to you (like that vacation that seems too expensive now, because all the money went for unused possessions).
Someone think that frugality is a way of deferring happiness, being cheap NOW in order to get something LATER… but that’s absolutely NOT what I’m talking about!
For example my favorite pair of jeans is from Emporio Armani and I paid quite some money for: I like them A LOT so I use them A LOT. NOW.
I definitely prefer to have 5 pair of high quality pants that I really like rather than many mediocre ones I end up never using, and I could probably even save money in the process.
I repeat: it’s not about being cheap, it’s about enjoy what I have, having only things I like and I use.
One more step towards happiness? It seems so, according to Rabbi Hyman Schachtel:
“Happiness is not having what you want. It is wanting what you have.”
But who is Rabbi Hyman Schachtel, anyway?!?